There are a number of ways, and we’ll address a few options here, and more ways later.
You might begin by exploring your voice so that you get to know it — can you say you really know your voice? I’ve been singing for years, and I’m still getting to know my voice.
Pretend you and your voice really don’t know each other. Schedule a date to meet and greet. Ask questions, explore, and find out what you can about this “new” friend of yours.
Maybe, just for starters, ask yourself these questions and write out the answers.
- What my voice can do? Include ideas about vocal range, strength or lack thereof that you feel or experience when you sing, clarity of your voice, vocal stamina, etc. Write down what’s true right now about your voice. Just ramble about it a bit. What’s in your awareness about your voice? Don’t bother editing. It’s helpful to see where your attention goes when you think about your voice, ’cause you can tell what’s on the “top of the stack.”
- How comfortable am I with singing? Can I and/or do I sing just for myself or do I sing for others?
- How do I sound? Describe it factually (without opinion or judgment). Example: I think of my voice as soft. I don’t know how high or low I can sing. My voice sounds breathy to me, like it has a lot of air in the sound. It’s not clear like a bell, it’s more like the sound of a soft breeze. OR — I have one of those boisterous voices. Loud, kind of brash and bold and out there. Not quiet or apologetic, really the opposite of that. I have a confident voice. When I sing, it just sounds loud to me. I don’t really know if I sing in tune. I just sing when I sing, without thinking much about how it sounds.
- Do I enjoy singing? Under what circumstances?
- What would I like my voice to do that I don’t think it can do at this moment in time?
During your day, when you get up from your desk, put your child down for a blessed nap, walk outside or down the hall for a lunch break or errand, try making a little sound. I don’t mean a squeak or a tiny sound, I mean sing a little bit. Hum a little. Sing a song out loud that you’ve been singing in your head. Make up a song. Make a wavy sound with your voice. Sing tra-la-la a couple of different ways. Sing a sentence instead of speaking it.
Pry open the “exploring your voice” treasure box by being vocal in a new way — not speaking — but singing. Widen your speaking range and turn it into a song-sound.
Yes! Sing a little…
Start small and work from there. Start with humming three notes, heck — one note. This gets your brain, body, and your being acclimated to a wider range of sound expression.
Later, if you are so inclined, you can develop your voice, so it can do what you want it to do. Your voice becomes your full partner, a well-prepared tool. It becomes the paint brush that can splash any color right where you want it. If you want to sing a low note, or a high note, and you can. If you need to hold a note forever, or practically forever, you can. Otherwise, it’s like being a painter with an incomplete palette — you’re missing some important colors, or the paintbrush itself.
But for now, sing people! Sing anything. Sing here. Sing there. Get to know your sound, your vibration, your up notes and your down notes.
It’s where to start.
Oh, and have fun….